It sounds to me like the lamps are drawing too much current from the decoder. I'd replace them with LEDs. When I do a decoder installation for friends on an older engine, whether in HO or N, I automatically replace any bulbs with LEDs. Usually, 3mm "sunny white" LEDs with a 1K dropping resistor work perfectly for headlight and rear light in HO scale diesels. For ditch lights, it depends on how they are lit - do they use a light pipe from a separate bulb? From the same bulb as the headlight? Are there separate bulbs for each ditch light? But no matter, they can be replaced. If a standard 3mm LED is too big, you can use a 603 surface mount LED, which is tiny (or even the larger 1206). Also use a 1K dropping resistor for these.
John C.