I did some quick looking around for such a relay, and while SSRs are getting really cheap, I found nothing resembling a latching style. Of course, you could use two SSRs fronted by a latching flip-flop, but at that point you need to build a local power supply for the flip-flop and add optoisolation for the inputs. IOW, by the time you've designed, purchased the various bits and built the thing, you've bought a Frog Juicer.
The Gaugemaster twin-coil relay is a slick trick. It probably works well when you hit the frog with a powered truck (loco or lighted car) that solidly bridges the gap to power the corresponding coil. However, what happens when a single metal wheel hits it at speed? Will there be enough time to move the contacts?