If you are planing on doing many decoder/headlight installs then having an assortment of resistors makes that job much easier. LED resistors calculators are very helpful but you first have to know what current you want to pass through the LED. With white LEDs you never really use their rated current (the LED would be too bright). So, the way to do this is visually. Use a resistor that results in a realistic brightness. I used to be an electronic technician and electronics is one of my hobbies so I have literally thousands of electronic components (which makes finding some specific resistor really easy).
In your specific case, you could get some standard resistor values for your installs. Then just choose the best one for that particular installation.
I would recommend the following values:
680, 750, 820, 910 (ohms), 1k, 1.5k, 2.2k, 2.7k, 3.3k, 3.9k, 4.7k, 5.6k, 6.8k, 7.5k, 8.2k. That should give you a nice range of values to arrive at the desired brightness. In most cases resistors with power dissipation of 1/8W will be robust enough ti handle the job. But you coudl also get 1/4W (but those are physically larger). As inexpensive as they are, you could probably buy a set of 1/8 and 1/4 W ones. If you want to go with surface-mount (SMD) resistors, the 1206 and 805 size woudl be equivalent of 1/4 and 1/8W respectively.
Just get 10 or more of each size (the price per resistor drops dramatically when they are purchased in quantity from suppliers such as Mouser Electronics or Digikey).
As far as the beacons not being very bright, I disagree. Beacons are designed to attract attention by being bright and by flashing. Just like the old police gumball lights, they are made up from a headlight-like sealed beam lamp which rotates. It is not very bright until it lines up with your eyesight. Then you get a very intense flash of light. Same with the Xenon strobes. They are fully turned off, then they give you a bright flash of light (just like a camera flash).
So, I wouldn't make their LED too dim. The decoder's lighting effect circuitry will keep the LED dim until it is supposed to flash - automatically. Keeping the resistor value not too high will allow the decoder to send a bright burst of light through the LED.